Stick your chest out more, look as masculine as possible!Īlso when on a date, there will always be a moment when you look around to see if anyone is looking if you want to kiss the guy, not as much now but at times I do get a little self-aware.
I focus on keeping eye contact with objects in the distance but then the thoughts pop in so quickly… Yesterday and on previous days as I walk the streets, I’m constantly trying to calm the thoughts down in my head that no one is looking at me. Since going to my weekly meditation classes I have started to see why I was still getting these bouts of anxiety, why I was still feeling unworthy, not good enough and Shame kept raising its ugly head each time. The more you do not talk about shame, the more it enables the feelings of not being good enough to become heightened. Shame thrives on hiding, being kept away, locked deep inside. The more I have looked inside and the emotions I am facing I can see Shame as the biggest part of my past that is still haunting me to this day. I have heard the word being used in the past but to be honest I have never really thought much about this emotion, it felt foreign to me so I dismissed this.
So, of late I have started to stare this monster in the face and his name is Shame. It stirred up so much pain I wasn’t able to face and I did everything in my power not to face. I knew deep down this had nothing to do with my looks, this went far deeper inside of me.
For a long time I put this down to my looks, not handsome enough, not fit enough, causing me to be so self-aware which in turn caused deep rooted anxiety that brought me to my knees. If, on the other hand, you consider someone to be gay only if they act on their same-sex attraction then being gay can be considered a choice depending on an individual's behavior.īut the real question is, does this really matter? If a person is an adult, is it anyone's business whom he or she is attracted to or has sexual relations with? Whether science can ultimately prove the biology of being gay or not, it's important to support all adults in their choices no matter how they identify.I have always looked at myself negatively, harshly and unfavourably. It very much appears that same-sex sexual attraction is not a choice but acting on it is so if you define gay as the mere presence of same-sex attraction, then from everything we understand, being gay is not a choice. Is Being Gay a Choice?Ĭonsidering whether people choose to be gay is complex. While psychological factors may increase the likelihood that someone is gay, no single factor is known to cause homosexuality. Adherence or deviance from conformity to gender roles.A female-dominated upbringing in a gay man's past, with an absence of a male role model.According to, what makes people gay may include: 5 Psychological reasons also appear to be part of why a person is gay. 4 Why Are People Gay? – Psycho-Social Reasons The connections in the amygdala and the corpus callosum have both been shown to be different depending on the sexual orientation of the individual. The precise genes involved in the causes of being gay have not yet been identified but they appear to come from the mother.Īdditionally, some studies have found that the brains from homosexuals differ from the brains of heterosexuals. Study of family history reveals that homosexual men have more homosexuals in their family tree than do heterosexuals." "In recent years, evidence has accumulated that a homosexual orientation is inherited. Modern science is working to show that genetics is one of the causes of being gay, although some science conflicts in this area. (read: Cure the Gay: Gay Conversion Therapy – Real or Hoax?) The reasons people are gay are both physiological and psychological. No one knows for certain why any individual is gay, but the current thought is that being gay is not a choice. In other words, 5-10% of people experience same-sex sexual attraction or behavior of course, this doesn't speak to what makes people gay. "Of, pertaining to, or exhibiting sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex." The simplest answer is to look at the definition of the word "gay." The term gay is a synonym for homosexual, which is defined as, 1,2 Estimates as to the number of gay people in the population range from 1-in-20 to 1-in-10, so why are some people gay? Are they gay by choice or is being gay genetic?